I'm feeling a bit of a trend lately with certain skinny friends as I start to talk about fat positivity more and more. They are trying to relate to me, to let me know they get it...but they are falling a little flat.
Firstly, one of my closest friends does this thing where she uses fat and lazy interchangeably when quoting someone else. Usually this happens when she is talking to me about someone being a shitter. ie., someone has said something fatphobic and in the retelling she quotes them as saying lazy where they have actually said fat/other more physical feature-related words. Weird, right? It's happened a few times and I just let it slide the first couple but I think I gotta talk to her about it and not sure how to approach the subject.
The other night I was at the same friends house with a certain lovely and fatshionable friend of mine that you all know and love *hinthint*. We were going through our most recent Torrid finds. I was talking about how great it is to be able to say to people at work "sorry, it doesn't come in your size" when I find amazing things at Torrid. I'm not all "die skinny people!", I think everyone's body is their body and should be celebrated but sometimes it is just nice to have the tables turned. At this point roomie friend tells us about a fatpoz zine she's been reading and how the other day it was so funny that she noticed she was eating a donut whilst reading it. Huh?I made some joke under my breath about her having her work cut out for her/doing her part to keep up with us, etc and left it at that so's not to ruin our fatshion excitements!
My point with both of these things being that it sucks when people act like they get it and say random shit without thinking it through. It's okay to ask questions and there is a way to do it without putting me in a teacher position. So do it, skinny friends! Thinking I need to re-distribute that thin privilege article Linda Bacon wrote, again.
I find that when I get uncomfortable my automatic response is to assume that other people are uncomfortable and do all I can to deflect from that. I'm trying to unlearn this. What do you do when this kind of stuff comes up in group situations?
Oh dear god it's cold. It's been fairly consistently cold since late December which is just plain odd for me since I live in a sub-tropical climate. There was even a whole week of below freezing temperatures! I have no idea how to handle it; I've never experienced anything like this in my life. Most winters I never even have to bust out a jacket or a scarf much less a coat but even my (admittedly cheap and unlined) wool coat isn't cutting it this year. My gf bought me this wacky 80's looking down filled jacket from the hunting/fishing mega mart. I love it! It's fuschia! And, I suppose, most importantly, it's been keeping me warm and dry but beyond that I'm lost. How do y'all handle cold weather fashion wise?